Yeah, there's that too. I REALLY don't like feeling like I'm annoying people...and I've somehow got it into my head that talking about my troubles is "complaining" and "complaining is annoying to others"...so...yeah...I just tend to shut-up about everything that's wrong with my life. Yep. Ironically enough, I have no problem being considered obnoxious for silly reasons, but if I'm considered annoying/obnoxious for always talking about myself and my problems when I really should just be grateful for what I have etc. I absolutely hate it. I don't care if people don't like me for what I put out on the outside, but if they don't like me for what I really am deep down...well, that hits just a little too close to home, and I honestly feel like I can't afford to lose the wonderful people in my life. And talking frankly about it like this? I could never do IRL or with anyone I didn't identify strongly with, because I'd be far too worried about how they thought about me.
But, I think some people fail to make the leap from imagining fictional characters complexly, to imagining REAL people complexly. And vice versus! I know people who have no trouble realizing fictional people are complex, but they cannot imagine that things IRL aren't black and white. That's one reason why I try to stay on the neutral side of so much IRL unless I have done research myself/have seen incontrovertible facts.
True. I've smuggled many a thing out of a place that way. I have a friend who likes to do that with stuff; if it won't fit in his pocket, he just sticks it in his waistband at his back...and he's surprisingly good at making things vanish.
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Re: Part 2
Date: 2012-06-22 11:57 pm (UTC)Yep. Ironically enough, I have no problem being considered obnoxious for silly reasons, but if I'm considered annoying/obnoxious for always talking about myself and my problems when I really should just be grateful for what I have etc. I absolutely hate it. I don't care if people don't like me for what I put out on the outside, but if they don't like me for what I really am deep down...well, that hits just a little too close to home, and I honestly feel like I can't afford to lose the wonderful people in my life.
And talking frankly about it like this? I could never do IRL or with anyone I didn't identify strongly with, because I'd be far too worried about how they thought about me.
But, I think some people fail to make the leap from imagining fictional characters complexly, to imagining REAL people complexly.
And vice versus! I know people who have no trouble realizing fictional people are complex, but they cannot imagine that things IRL aren't black and white. That's one reason why I try to stay on the neutral side of so much IRL unless I have done research myself/have seen incontrovertible facts.
True. I've smuggled many a thing out of a place that way.
I have a friend who likes to do that with stuff; if it won't fit in his pocket, he just sticks it in his waistband at his back...and he's surprisingly good at making things vanish.