The absence of women, primarily a mother figure, has shaped the guys into who they are now since day one and the results have not always been pretty.
Yes, exactly...and we see it in the rare moments where the boys are actually in the presence of their mother. It's like all their brokenness comes out in clear detail and we see how very vulnerable they are and have been without her.
It's interesting to see that how, although our society is pegged as patriarchal, our thoughts and feelings about mothers and families is so matriarchal.
This is very true. I know of a family where the mother was the one who was (arguably) abusive and (thankfully) abandoned the family early on...leaving the father as the sole parent of the two children. He quickly discovered that everything was designed for mothers...changing tables were in the women's restrooms...if he wanted to take his kids across the border, he needed a note from their mother, even though she was a horrible mother and not part of their lives...and a thousand other little things, I'm sure.
And while I'm thinking about it, what about Cas? Even he has lacked a suitable parental figure all his life until Bobby.
Very true, which is why I think Dean ended up seeing him as a child and becoming part of that parental unit himself. He did it with Sam too, so why not Cas? Both Sam and Cas had authoritarian father's that they either did not get along with, or did not even see, and in both cases, Dean stepped in to be the support that they lacked.
Also, and I'll talk about this today when I do Frontierland...but when Cas needed a safe place to go. He went to Bobby's.
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Date: 2011-10-26 06:00 pm (UTC)Yes, exactly...and we see it in the rare moments where the boys are actually in the presence of their mother. It's like all their brokenness comes out in clear detail and we see how very vulnerable they are and have been without her.
It's interesting to see that how, although our society is pegged as patriarchal, our thoughts and feelings about mothers and families is so matriarchal.
This is very true. I know of a family where the mother was the one who was (arguably) abusive and (thankfully) abandoned the family early on...leaving the father as the sole parent of the two children. He quickly discovered that everything was designed for mothers...changing tables were in the women's restrooms...if he wanted to take his kids across the border, he needed a note from their mother, even though she was a horrible mother and not part of their lives...and a thousand other little things, I'm sure.
And while I'm thinking about it, what about Cas? Even he has lacked a suitable parental figure all his life until Bobby.
Very true, which is why I think Dean ended up seeing him as a child and becoming part of that parental unit himself. He did it with Sam too, so why not Cas? Both Sam and Cas had authoritarian father's that they either did not get along with, or did not even see, and in both cases, Dean stepped in to be the support that they lacked.
Also, and I'll talk about this today when I do Frontierland...but when Cas needed a safe place to go. He went to Bobby's.