He's got a low opinion of Sherlock's life in general: the flat (too bohemian), the job (clearly he doesn't take Sherlock's detecting business seriously, since he feels free to command him around) and of course the friend (the way he says 'pals' is in my opinion not confusion on Sherlock's sexual orientation but pure disdain for Sherlock's choice of a companion who isn't his intellectual equal). Basically, that's because he doesn't understand Sherlock's longing for love and happiness.
Completely agree. Well said.
But he has been able to form meaningful relationships to other people before he met John and his face is just so emotional all the time that I'm amazed how other people could possibly miss this! So what John changes is other people's opinions of Sherlock because he sees what's always been there. Mostly, anyway. Sometimes he's too determined to view Sherlock as this robotic, alien genius himself.
Exactly. The whole reason John even becomes Sherlock's friend is because Sherlock WANTED him to... It's not a one-sided friendship, which means that Sherlock obviously has feelings of (platonic) affection toward John and his not a robot. Robots don't crave friends.
And yes, sometimes John falls into the same trap as everyone else and acts as though Sherlock doesn't have feelings, which, I think, really hurts Sherlock's feelings... and that's why it's for good reason that those moments end up being what John regrets most when Sherlock is gone.
But Molly's just to focussed on Sherlock to pay any attention to John. If Jim weren't Moriarty but just any ordinary boyfriend, this would be the point for him to realise that he'd better go looking for somebody else...
Good point!
So yes, I think he's hurting people to prevent them getting hurt because coming from his own past experiences (I have this headcanon where Mummy was suffering from depression and it was all hush-hush because they were supposed to be this perfect family), that actually is kinder.
Exactly. It's really a classic dilemma and Sherlock's just come down on the side that most people don't come down on. Do you tell people uncomfortable truths and rip the bandaid off quickly, or do you leave them to figure it out themselves and possibly prolong the suffering? I've had to make the decision before too, and I decided to keep my mouth shut, because I realized that the friend in question would be so horrified by what I had to say that they wouldn't listen to me anyway and might actually cling to the bad thing out of spite. Mind you, maybe I'm wrong and I could have actually saved my friend some serious pain, in which case I'm a horrible person for keeping my opinion to myself.
So it's not just Sherlock, it's also the "good" guys who derive pleasure from terrible things that are happening to other people.
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Completely agree. Well said.
But he has been able to form meaningful relationships to other people before he met John and his face is just so emotional all the time that I'm amazed how other people could possibly miss this! So what John changes is other people's opinions of Sherlock because he sees what's always been there. Mostly, anyway. Sometimes he's too determined to view Sherlock as this robotic, alien genius himself.
Exactly. The whole reason John even becomes Sherlock's friend is because Sherlock WANTED him to... It's not a one-sided friendship, which means that Sherlock obviously has feelings of (platonic) affection toward John and his not a robot. Robots don't crave friends.
And yes, sometimes John falls into the same trap as everyone else and acts as though Sherlock doesn't have feelings, which, I think, really hurts Sherlock's feelings... and that's why it's for good reason that those moments end up being what John regrets most when Sherlock is gone.
But Molly's just to focussed on Sherlock to pay any attention to John. If Jim weren't Moriarty but just any ordinary boyfriend, this would be the point for him to realise that he'd better go looking for somebody else...
Good point!
So yes, I think he's hurting people to prevent them getting hurt because coming from his own past experiences (I have this headcanon where Mummy was suffering from depression and it was all hush-hush because they were supposed to be this perfect family), that actually is kinder.
Exactly. It's really a classic dilemma and Sherlock's just come down on the side that most people don't come down on. Do you tell people uncomfortable truths and rip the bandaid off quickly, or do you leave them to figure it out themselves and possibly prolong the suffering? I've had to make the decision before too, and I decided to keep my mouth shut, because I realized that the friend in question would be so horrified by what I had to say that they wouldn't listen to me anyway and might actually cling to the bad thing out of spite. Mind you, maybe I'm wrong and I could have actually saved my friend some serious pain, in which case I'm a horrible person for keeping my opinion to myself.
So it's not just Sherlock, it's also the "good" guys who derive pleasure from terrible things that are happening to other people.
Exactly!