Supernatural, redefining your fandom preferences since 2005. ;) It's amazing how it can do that. Yet another reason I love it.
Me too. There's a reason it's the first fandom that I've ever actively participated in.
So I can safely say fandom and the experiences therein have changed me - for the better. But that's highly tangential.
Yes, I'm the same way. I really believe that being involved with fandom (even when I was just lurking for year) has been to my benefit rather than my detriment. But yes, highly tangential ;)
I can't help but wonder if that comes from the stigma and hate attached to being gay; for a heterosexual couple to behave heterosexually in public, that's "normal", nothing new. But for two gay men to "put their masculinity on the line", for lack of a better way to put it, and actively behave romantically towards each other in public, that takes a level of bravery that is generally associated with stronger affection(society's correlation between your love for someone/something and how far you're willing to go or how much you're willing to do). So the connection between being gay and true love. I admit, I tend to see it myself. And the reason it doesn't show up in F/F relationships is because for women, there's a lot less stigma attached to it than with men; for women society has informed us that it's practically trendy.
Very good point, and possibly also a good reason for my reaction to gay love vs hetero love. Also, a very good point about how the same doesn't hold true for F/F relationships - even though they do suffer social stigma as well, females can get away with more public affection than men can. Which, I might add, is a lose to heterosexual men as well. It's always really interesting for me to go to countries where there ISN'T a social stigma against male affection and see how many completely hetero guys are happy to hug, kiss (platonically), and fall asleep on the shoulders of each other. It's adorable, and also extremely attractive - since there's nothing I love more than someone who is comfortable with their sexuality....but I'm getting WAY off topic now. :P
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Me too. There's a reason it's the first fandom that I've ever actively participated in.
So I can safely say fandom and the experiences therein have changed me - for the better. But that's highly tangential.
Yes, I'm the same way. I really believe that being involved with fandom (even when I was just lurking for year) has been to my benefit rather than my detriment. But yes, highly tangential ;)
I can't help but wonder if that comes from the stigma and hate attached to being gay; for a heterosexual couple to behave heterosexually in public, that's "normal", nothing new. But for two gay men to "put their masculinity on the line", for lack of a better way to put it, and actively behave romantically towards each other in public, that takes a level of bravery that is generally associated with stronger affection(society's correlation between your love for someone/something and how far you're willing to go or how much you're willing to do). So the connection between being gay and true love. I admit, I tend to see it myself. And the reason it doesn't show up in F/F relationships is because for women, there's a lot less stigma attached to it than with men; for women society has informed us that it's practically trendy.
Very good point, and possibly also a good reason for my reaction to gay love vs hetero love. Also, a very good point about how the same doesn't hold true for F/F relationships - even though they do suffer social stigma as well, females can get away with more public affection than men can. Which, I might add, is a lose to heterosexual men as well. It's always really interesting for me to go to countries where there ISN'T a social stigma against male affection and see how many completely hetero guys are happy to hug, kiss (platonically), and fall asleep on the shoulders of each other. It's adorable, and also extremely attractive - since there's nothing I love more than someone who is comfortable with their sexuality....but I'm getting WAY off topic now. :P
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